Relationship problems are surprisingly common and can cause huge distress to those who experience them. Relationships may be between unmarried partners, co-habiting partners, partners in civil partnerships or married couples, all of whom can experience difficulties and conflicts in their relationships. These may be internal i.e. between the couple, or as a result of external pressures such as extended family, work pressure or perhaps an affair. Unresolved, these issues can lead to mental health problems, relationship breakdowns and divorce, all of which can be extremely painful for all concerned. Despite this people find it very difficult to talk about such personal issues and this may mean that problems continue for years. Relationship therapy is a space to go, alone or in a couple, to talk about these kinds of concerns and have discussions about how to better relate to each other.
All of us experience conflict as part of day-to-day life. In personal relationships we may come together from different backgrounds, religions, education experience, political backgrounds etc. As such the scope for conflict is present. Avoiding conflict, or ignoring problems, can result in avoiding important issues in our relationship, which may lead to resentment and anger. Anger can be acknowledged in a constructive way, but anger can be destructive and expressed in a physical or verbal way, which may be abusive to the other partner. Psychological therapy could help you earn to become skilled at dealing with conflict and asserting your needs.
In a relationship, it is important to reflect together on what you can learn from conflict.
Couples therapy, relational psychotherapy, existential or Cognitive Behavioural Therapy depending on what individual goals may be for treatment. The aim of therapy is to help individuals be more open with themselves about their issues, develop a deeper understanding of them and where they may have developed from and ways to move forward and develop healthier means of communication.